Kikastrophe

Friendship, Love, Spirituality -- With a touch of Technology

Hairstyles

I have a feeling that most of these are the same hair styles....  And i seem to like the razor cut.  

I dumped everything into this.  Tell me.  Which one.  The ones with * around them are the ones I'm looking at closely. 

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Validation

Me: Question.
Usually people who undergo trauma most of their lives.... Aren't normal.
Am I... Not normal?
And I just don't realize it?
Nathaniel: I have a few thoughts
A) I don't think I'm qualified to give more than my perception, I am not one to make such a call. But I can say what I perceive as long as you promise to take it with salt
Me: Salt. Okay.
Nathaniel: (B) I know many people who are 'normal' mainly for lack of trials, and they often aren't very developed people.
(C) I know many many people who are 'not normal' because of trials that they try to cope around, avoid, get through, without ever really facing and working them out to the point of healing.
past trials, mostly I mean
(D) Some of the best people I know are the ones who've been 'not normal' for the trials/abuse/trauma they've been through, but who have worked through it, recognized how to rebuild, and taken the time, work, love, and pain needed to get through - typically with help from God and others, but still a labor they undertook.
(E) And, while I don't think your trials are unique, I do think they stand out in that I'm pretty sure they have affected you.
Which is maybe why I'm so dad-gum EXCITED for you to be taking control of your own life and changing the pieces one by one
me: :)
Nathaniel: No, Laura, I do not think you are 'normal,' I think you are on the intermediate of 'normal' and 'extraordinary', which we can call 'not normal' for now.


For once in a very very long time, I feel validated. Validated in that my feelings have been recognized, my opinions are heard, and I... I am told that although I fight through an enormous amount of crap, that good is coming out of it. Especially since I can't get validation of my sense of self from my parents, and close friends anymore. 

And by long time, I mean, like almost 2 years. 

Well, no, I take that back. I got validation from my sense of self from Danny.

Regardless, it was a beam of light in a very VERY dark and scary place last night.
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Safe

As of right now, I'm taking control of my life. I'm giving off several impressions that are not particularly true.

I am capable of taking care of myself, whatever it looks like. I may look like a pathetic piece of work while crap happens, but crap has happened for a year, and I've done everythig myself with the support of my friends. Being "saved" inflicts on some of my core beliefs... Specifically, not burdening or inconveniencing others. Unless I know the extent of caring from the person doing it, i won't let anyone take care of Me when I'm sick.

I need to stop giving off the perception that my life is horrible. I talk about the bad stuff, mostly cause I learned from it. But right now. A better description for my life is mundane. I really don't have a place, people to belong with. And sometimes I fear to be myself. and I'm tired of it

I'm tired of not having control over things. I used to be in control. I used to he in the center of everything, and I liked it there, and now I'm not, and there's nothing I can do about it, so I need to find another place.

This would be easier if I had my own place.

I'm going to rewrite my 101 in 1001 and then I'm going to do it. And everything on it is going to progress me forward. I need a project. I think that's my problem. I don't have anything going for me other than watching myself lose control of everything.

And I'm not letting rejection destroy me anymore.

Thank goodness for blessings, and for the spirit of motivation.

I want feedback. Tell me, to you, who I am. If you were to tell someone else about me, what would you say? And I want feedback. I want to be better. And I want your ideas.

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Suffer

I seem, to find myself magically suffering (paranoidly I might add) for every pessimistic version of every situation. 

Why do I do this? 

Is it self defense? Suffer it now, so that when it actually happens, it won't hurt as much? I find myself running scenarios through my head, of what to say when what is said.  Facial reactions that keep me composed, not betraying the hurt I feel behind my mask.  And every situation, painful enough to leak a single tear from my eye. 

This is why we don't leave Laura alone. 

Bad things happen in her head.

I miss the days, where carefreely I let myself shine, oblivious to the social cues I was missing.  Ignorance was bliss. 

I really hope I'm not writing this post to be passive aggressive.  If I say its not meant to be that way, does that mean its not? Can I negate feelings just by saying that?

Probably not. 

I understood the risks when I chose the certain walkways of life that I now precariously tread on across my own sanity.  I am in no position to complain.  To do so, would be hypocrisy.  Of which I am fully against.

i feel... like I've given pieces of me out.  Pieces dear and sacred to me, and the people who hold them, don't know why, or understand fully what they are and what they mean to me.  And I fear they will get stomped on and smushed.  mocked.

Why do I set myself up for this?

Is this common?  How do you handle it?
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Enlightenment

Dear Readers, 

[insert how are you's and things are good yadda yadda]
After having a conversation with Nathaniel, it was decided that several of the posts should be pulled for the time being.   (Why the heck is my default color this green thing? ) K. Better.  Now, this is based on a number of reasons, but none of which is because I did anything wrong. I do hope and expect that some of these posts to go back up.  This does not mean I'm not willing to share the stories.  If you missed them, contact me, and I'll give you a slightly modified version of them.  Or I'll explain in person.   We have no issues sharing them. We're going to work through a couple things, and then hopefully they'll be back up soon.  

[insert, hope everything is wonderful, let me know how you are]
[Not sure what to put here cause I'm not thanking, or asking anything just alerting], 
Kikastrophe

 
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Flitting through the office.

Once upon a time, I wandered down the aisleways towards one of the managers to ask a question about our product.

A question that got several other cubicles involved in the answer. 

After clarifying the answer I turned to walk down the long Aisle to my cubicle. 


After looking around to make sure no one could see me, I started skipping through the aisle in a similar manner to those videos you watch in slo mo of someone skipping through the field to their loved ones.   As I came to a stop, I heard my name, and turned around to see, in horror, the entire half of the floor looking over the cubicles at me.  They had come to a different conclusion and had stood up to call my name and yell it at me. 

And I died laughing. 
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Compare

Once upon a time, a friend wanted me to grab them sheet music for "Last Kiss" and "You belong with me" by Taylor Swift.  She wanted a different arrangement, and so I turned to youtube.  Usually, people will put up their music, and then post a link to the sheet music. So I started sending off links to them, helping them learn to find the sheet music, and there on the search page, was this: 




Yes. That's #boy.

How Am I supposed to compare to this gorgeous and talented woman?!

**cries**

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The Real Hike Post Pt. 1

Blah.

OKAY! so.  Saturday.  I'm thinking to myself at this point, that I wanted to do something epic. (And in reality, Epic is what it turned into)  I had this awesome thought: What if we were to hike somewhere to eat. And I thought of Stewart Falls, and relatively easy hike with a waterfall.   And thinking to myself, "Dear self, what if we were to stay out late enough to utilize the telescopes we had built the week before.  Which would mean, we should bring blankets and even shelter up depending on the weather! PERFECT! Running to my dad, I asked for sleeping bags and a tent.  Which was granted to me under the condition that we came home that night. 

Nathaniel showed up around 2:30 the next day, and we started packing up what we had.  And making foods.  While making the sandwiches, we had ahead of lettuce out. And he started munching on the lettuce just off the head.  (Which, I used to do as a kid. Lettuce was my favorite food.) and my mom kind of flipped, just cause he was acting just as weird as I was.
 We decided to wrap up sleeping bags zipped together. 

Hey look! Picture:




Which, when we were done packing everything up, it looked like this:





We ended up leaving my house at 5.  (5!) and making our way up to Stewart falls.  On the way up, we pass a deer that had been hit, and the cars that had hit it. (important later, I promise.) And Nathaniel had made mention that he wanted to clean a deer at some point (Spoiler alert!!!!)   And we made it up there to find it was ALOT colder than we thought. And there was alot more snow than we thought.  As we were trying to find the trail, I even waded through snow that was knee deep.  And then, sweating, proclaimed: All right. That was a good hike.

And thus we began our hike up to Stewart Falls.  And we talked about dating, and Kate, and how he met her, how awesome she was, and what he liked about her, and what was different between me and her. We talked about values and trust.  We talked about Cory, and why he was somehow magnetic to lots of people. Through out this conversation, I came to realize, that even though I loved Cory dearly, and still do, we never went anywhere as a couple.  We spent all that time together, but never had our own lives to compliment it.  At least, I didn't.  And already, in 2 and a half weeks that I had known Nathaniel, we had explored each other (in an abstract way with words, what were YOU thinking?)  and were now hiking out in the snow.  We were never running out of things to talk about, and each thing that was said branched off into many many other conversations and we had to work hard to keep ourselves on track.

I believe in eternity.  As a Mormon, I believe that I will marry someone to be with me for the rest of eternity.  Families are forever.  When I was a child, eternity scared me. And by scared, I meant terrified.  I think it might have been in conjunction with my panic attacks. Also, because I didn't know what love felt like.  Where I was fearing being idle for long periods of time.  And had an idea that that's what eternity would be like.  Somewhere along the line, probably when I started learning about particle physics, my views changed.  The idea that we will suddenly become Gods and Goddesses and know all things immediately didn't make sense to me. *poof* immediate omniscience DID.NOT.MAKE.SENSE. You should learn it. Which meant, I had all eternity to learn biology, particle physics, construction, regular physics, astronomy, math, language, poetry, psychology! Dimensional physics.  Warp technology!  And who knows what else is out there. And my future companion has no choice. He's going through all my self taught classes and exploration with me.

Suddenly, my views on eternity changed. I was excited to die now.  (wait...) with a boy!  With this new view in mind, I saw the ideal date preparation like this:  Pick a topic that was interesting. Do a little research, and then apply it to the date.  So that I was always learning something new, and progressing with he who was on a date.  Hence the original reason I purchased the Galileoscopes a long time ago. And Cory? Well, we never did it.  Wasn't his fault. We both got comfortable staying right where we were.  And I never pushed it.

But I mentioned this to Nathaniel.  Even had an example.  "We could get a book about like, Plant Identification, and then go out into the wilderness and identify them." I had been staring at my feet, precariously trying not to slide off the trail and die, and I looked up to see he had stopped walking and he looked like he was about to fall over.  From excitement.

He's a keeper.

Anyways, we get up to the waterfall, and drop our bags, trying to get close to the falls. Out by the falls, as the ground met the water, it was ICE.  All Ice.  And we remarked on the fascinating colors and patterns in the ice.  It was dark but the light reflecting off the head lamps was awesome. 



We sat on the ice, and let the cold mist hit us. Well, at least I did. I like mist. and Waterfalls.  In the last picture, you can see the ice forming on my snow pants.   After spending some time at the waterfall, and looking around for a place to put up a tent, we decided to hike back to a cement water tower to set up camp before heading home.

And I shall finish this post later.
Lame, I know. 
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